Dear Reader

Any reference to any person living or dead is purely
coincidental, and not meant to cause offence , only to provoke humour, and as a vehicle to "get things off my chest"

Saturday 28 May 2011

Sunday 15 May 2011

THEN IT DAWNED ON ME...IT'S ALL ABOUT CONTROL

When you first see it, you can't believe it.

You may have certain doubts and questions, and usually you think something like..."it must be me, or, I must have misunderstood, or maybe I'm too judgemental."

Then as time goes by, and things continue...you see the same tricks over and over.

Subtle undermining comments and actions, veiled threats, often accompanied by some sort of false flattery,borderline bullying...a certain drawing of the lines of division "your obviously not going to cooperate with everyone else, etc."

Perhaps lectures or talks or reminders of how you should be conducting yourself...being more forgiving, not gossiping, more submissive or more of a team player (team player, meaning doing what your told, not asking questions)

You may withdraw, you may observe, you may draw conclusions.....however you'll be waiting forever to see things spontaneously self correct, or change.

Saturday 14 May 2011

A REFLECTION ON BLOGGING

Web Log = Blog.

Its as much as anything a social phenomena.
By it's nature it's your stuff (as a blogger)..
Your perspective, your comment, your information, your corner of the world,
in fact to a point, your diary.

The" Web" part of it is about connection, it's about 'putting it out there'...in cyberspace.
It's wishing for someone to notice, agree, disagree, feel moved, or encouraged or whatever.
Ultimately, it's about interaction and chain reaction,
otherwise you may as well write your stuff in a lovely little book.

Sometimes discovering people and info etc on a blog, is like an adventure
it's new unfarmiliar waters.
You relate it all to yourself, and your circumstances....you read your own stuff into it,
and you sometimes develop a feeling of familiarity to the blogger,
that is well perhaps unrealistic...but hey that's just what happens.

Little favourite blogs become part of the daily routine...'coffee and blog' for breakfast.

So dear blogger, don't be surprised that every so often there's a bit of a spill over.
Don't be surprised if you get a variety of responses. People are different, they're all at different stages, they have different needs, and even agendas.
It's a bit like celebrity, if you put it out there you may have to 'wear' a bit of flack.
You've jumped out of the goldfish bowl, into the big river...it's not all going to be under your control.

So, when you'r a bit grumpy, or have a cold or flu or otherwise feel miserable.
Go to bed with a good book, a cup of lemon tea and some sort of medication....steer well clear of negative comments on your blog, or telling interesting but complicated and not really helpful stories about other people or situations you have found difficult.You'll probably regret it later...

This advice dear reader can, and should be applied to the social phenomena... Face book.